There is only a few things that speak louder than words. Even though we are always saying actions speak louder than words, your choice of clothes does too. What you wear matters! We read so much into what type of person someone is by their shoes or type of jeans they have. If our outward appearance is so powerful we should us it wisely. Here’s why.
You ever make a friend and one day you’re hanging out, just talking and chilling. Then you guys go from laughing and making jokes to discussing something super personal. Then afterwards during an awkward silence you say “Did we just have a moment?”. And from that moment on you two become inseparable. And now you can’t even remember what life was like without them.
Once a friend of mine told me she wanted to know how to do makeup so that she can get dressed up for special occasions. A guy who was with us proceeded to shut that idea down by saying she did not need make up to feel beautiful and special. Granted that may be true but here I am, full face is beat, and I feel somewhat ostricised. As if because I am wearing makeup, I have not accepted myself as beautiful. Sidenote: can we just reject the narrative that women who wear makeup have low self esteem and haven’t embraced themselves. it’s tired and not true. And if you truly cared about her self-esteem you should probably focus on making her feel seen regardless of what she looks like.
It’s Valentine’s day and I’m sitting in the office minding all of my own business. And one of the supervisor at my job stops to talk to me. His first question is “so what are you doing for Valentine’s day?”. It was at this moment I breathed a heavy sigh and mustered up the deepest of eye rolls.