What You Wear Matters - #WinterJacketInspo

There is only a few things that speak louder than words. Even though we are always saying actions speak louder than words, your choice of clothes does too. What you wear matters! We read so much into what type of person someone is by their shoes or type of jeans they have. If our outward appearance is so powerful we should us it wisely. Here’s why.


EASIEST FORM OF EXPRESSION

Being able to communicate multiple ways is just a part of the human experience. We laugh, give side eyes, dap each other up. All ways to express ourselves and communicate with each other. Out clothes give us the chance to do that as well. Sometimes being in the Christian space we always talk about what we don’t want out clothes to say, but it’s okay to frame the conversation around what you do want it to say. That’s were graphic tees and hoodies are super clutch. This hoodie from J Anthony Designs says, “My name shall be great among the nations” a reference to Malachi 1:1.

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CONVERSATION STARTER

And when someone ask you where that quote came from and you drop that scripture it just leads to deeper conversation! How many “and it has pockets” has led to giggles with random strangers. Clothes start conversations. Our love for fashion ignites something. There are so many sneaker clubs and organizations just to talk about the latest shows. And I am here for anything the brings people together!

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My clothes are everything to me. I choose outfits that make me comfortable but can speak for me. Colors that make me happy, and jackets that make me smile. Shoes that get me around comfortably but make a statement all on their own. Clothes with enough give so I can break out into dance at any moment. Shirts and hoodies that give me a little attitude but covered with quotes that show I’m filled with a love that even I don’t understand. I thank God everyday for allowing me to express myself through fashion. I choice to give HIM glory through it



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The God Shift

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You ever make a friend and one day you’re hanging out, just talking and chilling. Then you guys go from laughing and making jokes to discussing something super personal. Then afterwards during an awkward silence you say “Did we just have a moment?”. And from that moment on you two become inseparable. And now you can’t even remember what life was like without them. Like who did I used to text all day? Or who did I hang out with on Saturdays? We all have the moment that forever changes our life. Towards the end of this summer I found myself talking to God saying the exact same thing, “God, did we just have a moment??”

So in January 2018, I found myself very unhappy with my job. It felt like my role was slowing down and my professional growth was stalling. And I wasn’t sure what to do with this feeling, mainly because it was my first job out of college and this feeling was brand new. I’ve never had to navigate a space where I did not like my career. I waited it out, for the sake of seeing it through. I thought maybe if I give it some time, it’ll get better. But it didn’t. I found myself at work bored, annoyed, and without much direction or guidance. I had no clue what to do. people kept saying find a new job. But that sounded too scary to tackle at the time.


One day at bible study, I decided to share with my community group my issues with my job. And this was probably the first time I actually voiced my dislike for my job. They all comforted me, and afterwards one of the women asked if she could pray for me. During that prayer she looked at me and told me, “I know this is a hard time, but trust God. If He does not want you at this job He will provide a way for you to leave. When it’s time for you to go it will be physically impossible for you to stay”. There are some things that just feel like a hug from God, and thats what her words felt like. So I took I to heart. I prayed and told God, “If you want me to leave this job God, make a way”.

Work continues to annoy me. and I continue to be frustrated. A series of events happen, that confirm my worries about my job. And around May 2018, I’ve had it. I know I can’t stay. And to top it off, I get asked to take a position that does not fit with what I'm currently doing and is not my area of expertise. So I felt stuck in my current position, and the only other position being offered is on that is not a good fit. When you’re at a job that does not value you, you begin to do the same. I began to wonder if I was even good enough for the position. It was then that I decide to start applying for other positions. I spent most of my days at work applying on LinkedIn. After a few weeks, I had a couple of interviews that I was excited about. But nothing seemed to work out. And I was frustrated because I was so unhappy at work. It was painful to even go to work and be in the environment. But I was still hopeful.

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“I began to wonder if I was even good enough for the position”

It was July 20th when my job called all the employees into our conference room and announced that our site would be closing down. My head was spinning as they discussed severance pay and relocation. I was in compete shock. Then the words my friend from bible study said started to replay in my head, “When it’s time for you to go it will be physically impossible for you to stay”. I was scared, but I knew this meant it was time to go. Two days before I had an interview with a HR rep. Then on July 26th I had a follow interview with someone else from the company, and the next day another interview with the hiring manager. It was on August 1st that I went for a site visit to have four more interviews and a site tour. And on August 3rd I got the call saying I got the job!

I was in awe! After months and months of discomfort and months of interviewing. It took TWO weeks to go from interview to job offer. During the interview process I asked why the position was open, and they told me the other candidate did not work and that he was let go a few weeks prior. And it was then that I knew. God had been working while I was worrying. When I thought God had left me to sit in my situation, he was actually setting me up for success. If I had not listened to God and quit in January I would not have this job. What felt like God pushing me off a ledge when my job announced it’s closure was really God pushing me into a position that would bring me more joy and personal growth then anything I can imagine.

It was the week before my start date, and I lost my wallet. I was frustrated because I was about to go on vacation and then needed my ID to complete the initial paperwork. I felt like I was being attacked and discouraged with my job. So I just decided to make plans, in the two days I had free, to replace everything in my wallet. But I was stuck because my SS card was in my wallet (don’t ask why) and I couldn’t find my birth certificate. and I don’t have a passport (don’t judge me). So I planned to try to finesse a new ID with some W2 forms. But the night before I was planning to go to the DMV, I received a package. And because I did not order anything, I was a bit hesitant to open it up. But after I unwrapped, my jaw dropped. it was my wallet. Some kind stranger found it and mailed it back to me. And I could have fell out. Because God once again showed up for me. While I was worrying and busy trying to figure out what to do, my wallet was on my way to me the entire time. And that’s a word! Sometimes we get so caught up in our situations trying to fix it ourselves or moping about it. But the entire time God is moving things in our favor. I know it’s just a wallet and it may not sound like a big deal but these two situations taught me something. No matter how big or small your situation, God is working! He is preparing a blessing for you but you just have to wait a little bit. I know some of you may be in a season where you don’t know what to do next but God wants you to know He’s working but you have to be patient.


So here I am a month into my job reflecting on the day I got the job and I’m asking God, “Did we just have a moment?” Because this summer you forever changed my life. You showed me that you care for me during the big and small moments. You showed me that my situations are important to you. In the future, how can I doubt God again? I have forever chosen to believe that God is working even when I can’t see it. God has shifted my perspective to see Him in my troubles and changed the direction of my career. And the only thanks I can give is my worship.

 
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A Work of Art

Once a friend of mine told me she wanted to know how to do makeup so that she can get dressed up for special occasions. A guy who was with us proceeded to shut that idea down by saying she did not need make up to feel beautiful and special. Granted that may be true but here I am, full face is beat, and I feel somewhat ostricised. As if because I am wearing makeup, I have not accepted myself as beautiful. Sidenote: can we just reject the narrative that women who wear makeup have low self esteem and haven’t embraced themselves. it’s tired and not true. And if you truly cared about her self-esteem you should probably focus on making her feel seen regardless of what she looks like.

Okay so let’s follow this logic that wearing no makeup is better. So I wipe all my makeup off and how does the internet react?? In senseless shock that you look different without makeup. The internet used to tear women apart who showed their bare face before applying makeup. Saying that they were lying to men and weren’t being honest. This is an absolute insult to the natural condition of a women’s face that she has no control over. So you don’t like makeup but can’t handle, acne, hyper pigmentation, birthmarks, and sparse brows. I remember when Alicia Keys decided to not wear makeup anymore, and it had me heated. Because yes she was embracing herself but all it did was glorify clear skin. I’m not mad at Alicia but it created an unrealistic standard for how other people see women.

At some point I wasn't sure it I felt beautiful and just wanted the world to acknowledge it or if I didn’t and wanted the world to validate my concerns by showing me more women who looked like me. But here’s one thing I know. The world will have you going back and forth all day every day. And I cannot look to them to define who I am. They did not create me. God did.

When I was in elementary school, we went to the museum. They had a Norman Rockwell exhibit and I was sooooo excited because I had a book of his work in my home library and we were studying him that semester. So to see his work in person was so amazing. Fast forward to college. I went to the Museum of Modern Art in NYC. There was an exhibit that had videos playing of people’s bare skin with flies landing on them. And the room was just filled with the sound of them buzzing. It literally made no sense to me and kinda creeped me out, but I never questioned the worthiness of it. It was still fit to be displayed because it was someone’s work of art. Although we may not understand it, it’s still art. We were made by an intentional creator. He fashioned us in so many different and unique ways. We are beautiful because we were made. The simple fact the God decided to make us, is beauty in and of itself. You may not understand why you were born with acne prone skin, or why you can’t gain weight to save your life. But know that regardless, we were made with purpose. And that is to use everything we are to glorify God. Our uniqueness shows all the facets of who God is. Embracing who we are, glorifies are creator. We are God’s work of art.

I believe that beauty is existing. And existing knowing that everything you are is good. The second we put constraints and physical parameters around how we see beauty it excludes or shames someone. It isn’t how clear your skin is, or what size you are. it’s the fact the we are, and who we are is good and perfect. So how do you know you’re beautiful?

 
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The Day After

The Day After

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We used to store about two dozen or so white plastic chairs in my basement. Me and my siblings would arrange them in lines and cover them with blankets to make tunnels around the basement. It usually lead to a covered table, which was the fort. And we would chase each other and laugh and laugh, until we heard the rumble from the garage door opening. We would rush upstairs to say hey to my parents to avoid them coming down and seeing the mess we just made. But on the days we made a mess they always wondering downstairs. Of course we would get fussed at to clean up the chaos we created. These were typical days for our household.....

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